My grandmother ended up being clear: It didn’t matter to her that my boyfriend had been white, but there clearly was a very important factor she had a need to understand.
“whom did he vote for?”
This concern is derided by some as unjust (a great deal for the tolerant left!) and refused by other people as just unneeded. Why should it make a difference, they posit, if love conquers all? But in my opinion, the inquiry felt totally reasonable. Ebony women’s option whether and whom to love is without question shaped by governmental forces, and built in the real face of extreme opposition. (more…)